Martin Deeson writing in GQ magazine this month writes about the loss of a loved one, in this case his father, that it can teach us things about ourselves and about life. "The horrible thought that hits you when you lose somebody close is that everybody will have to go through this at some point in their life..."


He goes on to say " The only way to not go through your parents' death is to die before them .... the only way to never lose someone you love is to never love anyone"
You can never know what is round the corner in life, if sometimes you get thrown a curve ball it is how you deal with it that sets people apart from others.

If you get knocked back after applying for the job you wanted, rejected by someone you care about or get dealt a bad hand in life; then how you react is the making of a man. Do you feel sorry for yourself? Do you blame everyone else for this? Do you blame the other person involved? No - the decent thing to do in my eyes is to stand back accept your faults that caused the decision to be made or events to happen and make the best of the situation.

Sometimes things happen for a reason, and more often than not if you had acted differently, said something different in the interview, or told the person how you really feel about them it might have made the situation worse rather than resolve it. Unless we can see into the future then we cannot know for sure. So if you think something you have done has made someone think worse of you - then think again it might be that they know you had to make that decision.

So keep smiling, do your best to carry on and make good the situation, learn from your mistakes and remember if you were part of the problem you may also be part of the solution.

My auntie's funeral is on tuesday, funerals are obviously not a pleasant experience but they are an opportunity to pay your respects to someone who was good to you. It is also one of my 2 fears (albeit irrational ones) that when the time comes (touch wood in many years time) for mine that nobody will turn up!

james