Have you ever been in a relationship that you are unsatisfied with? Have you ever had a dilema about what to do with that relationship? What is keeping you there? We are creatures of habit and often find the long term relationship we are in with our partner, wife / husband drifts into something we did not want it to become.

We become complacent and forget why we got together in the first place. Many people come to me with issues they want to tackle and assume they need to resolve the symptom (ie not progressing with their career) instead of the root cause. We spend a great deal of time and effort at the start of a relationship making sure it flourishes, for some that might be cooking a romantic meal, time doing our favourite past times together, spending hours in front of the mirror so our hair looks just right to impress our new partner (i dont have that particular trait!) or ...and lets be honest...spending hours in bed making sure you are both..satisfied!....

When you get frustrated with your current relationship it is easy to forget what has changed between the two of you. People change over time, especially long periods of time, our priorities change or we just expect our partner to be there for us and take that for granted. But there are times in every relationship where things arent harmonious.

So here are some questions that my clients have found beneficial to consider
1. Remind yourselves of how you both felt the first time you met, the first time you kissed. Where were you, what were you doing at the time?
2. Make a list of all the positive things you felt about your partner since you have been together.
3. See if they are feeling the same!
4. Consider the alternatives.....divorce, seperation, life style change think about the pros and cons for each
5. What are your overriding goals in life and how does your relationship fit into that?
6. How would you feel if you were no longer in that relationship? What would the other implications be ie for kids, finances jobs etc?
7. Is this disastisfaction temporary or just a blip?

Speak to you soon
James
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